Posts Tagged ‘Marriage’

Absence Makes the Heart Grow

December 2, 2010

Mark has been in Vegas on business for just over 3 days now and I absolutely cannot wait to go pick him up at the airport tonight. It still surprises me how much I miss him when he’s gone. We spent about a year and a half doing the semi-long distance thing, only seeing each other once every two weeks at best {throughout our entire engagement no less}; and as much as I hate reliving those lonely night memories, I kind of like when we’re apart for a few days now.

When I first dropped him off at the airport on Sunday I was a little sad but more so excited to have some time to myself. I listened to Christmas music without inhibitions {he’s not as big a fan as I am}, I watched Love Actually and I put up Christmas decorations. But after a day or so of only talking on the phone for a few minutes due to the time difference, I began to miss a bunch of little things about him that I never really knew I would miss. Mainly, it’s a lot harder for me to roll out of bed on time when he’s not there to steal my covers, forcing me to get up, ha!

Yes, I do believe that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I think that quote has a little more meaning when you drop off the last word: absence makes the heart grow. Being away from my husband is never fun but it’s always a huge growing experience for me. When he’s gone, I can’t wait for him to get back so I can love on him as much as possible; I yearn to make him happy, to make him feel loved, to give him a big hug and never let go. I miss him more than ever right now but it’s not a sad kind of missing, it’s an exciting kind of missing {if that exists}. I’m counting down the hours…


The First of Many

September 20, 2010

One year ago yesterday we were saying our vows and celebrating our new marriage surrounded by family and friends. It’s hard to believe how quickly the past 365 days have flown by, yet looking back it has been a very full year.

There was our trip to St. Louis for Thanksgiving and then Christmas in Rogers with my family; Mark was offered his dream job at Apple in January and has been loving it ever since; we dove deep into budgeting and eventually paid off our student loans; in July I finally had the pleasure of visiting Boston and Maine with Mark and his family; and through it all we’ve been exploring the great city of Austin, trying different restaurants, experiencing the culture and loving every minute of it.

Wanting to further submerse ourselves in the ways of an Austinite, we stayed in a hotel this past weekend and spent a couple of days enjoying downtown minus the driving. Saturday we woke up early and went for a walk; we ended up at the capitol where there was a tea party rally being held on the front steps. While wandering around inside we met an interesting character, Greg, stationed in the Senate chamber who, after finding out it was our first anniversary, wrote “Happy Paper Anniversary Rands!” on a blank sheet of paper and suggested we go downstairs to get the state seal stamped on it to commemorate the day. On our way to the office we discovered the Texas Agriculture Museum within the capitol, it had a neat collection of everything grown in the state complete with an entire chest full of canned goods from okra to peaches.

After getting our paper gift stamped we headed down to the farmer’s market on 5th and Guadalupe. We’ve been a few times, never to buy anything really but rather to people-watch and ogle at all the cute dogs {everyone who’s anyone brings their dog to the farmer’s market}. Then we made our way to the lake where we tried out paddle boarding for the first time, also referred to as SUP {stand up paddle board}. We paddled under the Congress bridge and smelled heard all of the bats roosting beneath it. The wind was blowing along the lake so we figured it would be best to paddle against the wind first then drift on the way back once we were tired…well, as soon as we turned around, so did the wind! We made it back though, it’s definitely a great balancing workout.

We grabbed lunch at Torchy’s Tacos, one of the many food trailers in south Austin, and just as we were about to begin our tour around south Congress it started to pour. So instead we headed out to the mall to waste time before dinner.

Mark’s mom was gracious enough to give us a gift card to one of our favorite restaurants downtown, Perry’s Steakhouse. It’s such a nice treat to go there, the atmosphere is perfect with it’s live piano music, the food is always top notch and the service is excellent. We probably had 5 or 6 people tell us happy anniversary from the time we arrived and our table was adorned with fresh rose petals. We spent the evening reminiscing about the past year, and excitedly dreaming about what lies ahead. The best part of the entire meal was definitely dessert; picture this: a large ball of Amy’s Mexican vanilla ice cream, rolled in sliced almonds, topped with white chocolate in a bowl that’s drizzled with a Bailey’s/chocolate mixture. Then the cook made brown sugar caramelized pecans and flambeed them with a little brandy table-side and poured it all on top. Heaven. in. my. mouth. It was the perfect end to a perfect day.

Sunday I had a soccer game at 1 and nothing worthwhile opened until noon so we checked out of the hotel and stopped at Whole Foods on our way back home. That place is so amazing, I wish we could afford to regularly shop there. Literally 3/4 of the entire store is fresh produce, meats, breads, etc. whereas a typical grocery store is maybe 1/3. Of course I know that they create such a welcoming environment complete with lovely music and dim lighting to entice people such as myself into wanting to shop there, I realize that. Bravo, Whole Foods, your store is prettier than the one I shop at, haha.

On our way out we passed by hay bale upon hay bale stacked with pumpkins and gourds. They had a big section of these Mosque de Provence pumpkins which we had grown for the wedding, I’ll have to go back and buy one to decorate our new apartment with!

Our anniversary weekend ended with Mark cooking dinner for the two of us. It was the perfect weekend spent with my favorite person in the world, I can’t wait for the rest of our lives to unfold together!

Feminine Appeal

January 22, 2010

This week I began a new bible study with some women from my friend’s church; to be honest I’ve never really participated in a bible study unless you count Sunday school so this is something different for me. In this study we are reading Feminine Appeal, it’s based upon this passage from Titus 2:

“Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can teach the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.”

Here we, as women, are given seven feminine virtues to live by: loving my husband, loving my children, self-control, purity, honor in working at home, kindness and submission. As we delve further into the book we will be learning how each of these virtues relate to our daily, modern lives.

I’m really looking forward to how God will reveal Himself to me through this study. Being a relatively young wife, I know that I still have a lot to learn; most of the women in the study group have been married for 8+ years and have kids so I’m hoping to learn as much as I can from them and their experiences.